Sunday, July 19, 2015

Tips To Look ,More Attractive Without Make-ups

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Many women think that makeup is the only way
to look gorgeous each day. While makeup is
great and fun, you don’t have to wear it daily in
order to look more beautiful. Each day we spend
so much time and energy in front of the mirror
applying makeup, without realizing how beautiful
we are without all the eyeshadows, mascaras and
foundations we applied. Going makeup free will
save you a lot of time and money, and will
improve your skin tone and make it look more
radiant. Here are seven essential tips for looking
great without makeup every single day.


Wash your face every morning and every night
If you want to look great without makeup, you
should always wash your face every morning and
every night. Maybe it sounds obvious, but
believe it or not, many women don’t wash their
faces in the morning and that’s a huge mistake.
Washing your face morning and night will help
ward off acne and will make your skin look more
radiant.



 Use a gentle cleanser
A harsh cleanser strips the skin cells and can
make your skin look ruddy and dry, so it’s
important to wash your face with a more gentle
cleanser. Try to find a cleanser which is hypo-
allergenic, non-comedogenic, and make sure it
works with your skin type. It’s one of the surefire
ways to look great without makeup.



 Use the right facial moisturizer
You need to use a facial moisturizer right after
washing to keep your skin looking healthy and
young. Unfortunately, lots of moisturizers can
cause your skin to become more oily and shiny,
and can even break it out. It can be hard to
choose the right moisturizer, but a good facial
moisturizer is the key to a beautiful, radiant skin.
Look for a facial moisturizer with SPF of 30 to
protect your skin from harsh sun’s rays.



 Use Vaseline instead of mascara
I know it sounds weird, but using Vaseline
instead of mascara is a tried and tested way to
look more beautiful without any makeup. Simply
apply a little bit of Vaseline to your lashes to
make them glow without applying mascara. If
you wear mascara, try to use Vaseline to take it
off. Vaseline is much gentler than many eye
makeup removers.


Use coconut oil instead of store-bought lip
balm
While you can use coconut oil to remove your
makeup, you can also use it as lip balm. Most
store-bought lip balms contain chemicals that
can dry your lips out and can even cause them
to appear dull and lifeless. Just a little bit of
coconut oil will help keep your lips more
hydrated and heal any dry cracked areas. Why
not give your lips a fresh, healthy glow with
coconut oil?



Don’t pluck your eyebrows too much
Sure, you need to keep your eyebrows under
control, but make sure you don’t pluck them too
much. You need to tweeze only obvious stray
hairs above and below the eyebrow without going
into the actual eyebrow shape itself. Even if you
have thick eyebrows, you don’t have to pluck
them into oblivion, instead embrace them and
don’t try to change them completely.



Eat healthy
When you have a healthy skin, you don’t need
any makeup. The foods you eat daily play a vital
role in the health of your skin so make sure you
stick to a healthy diet. First of all, try to
incorporate more fruits and veggies into your
daily diet. There are also a few healthy foods that
can give you a great skin if you consume them
regularly. Eating healthy is one of the most
essential tips to follow when you are trying to
look more beautiful without makeup.


Looking beautiful without makeup is not as
difficult as you think. Small changes to your
skincare routine can bring fantastic results! What
are your secrets to looking great without
makeup?

Fattening Foods You Should Never Eat

 

 

Bad news foods


It really is a shame. Some of the best-tasting foods are actually some of the worst in terms of fat and calories. But it can be hard to avoid them, especially in places—like malls—where nutrition information usually isn’t available.

So we did the work for you; take a look at a list of foods you should skip or pick—at a mall, restaurant, or grocery store.

(A 2,000-calorie-a-day diet should have no more than 66 grams of fat, less than 20 grams saturated; 2,400 milligrams of sodium; and 300 grams of total carbohydrate, including sugars.)








Smoothie King's Hulk Strawberry Smoothie

Fruit and yogurt can’t be bad, right? Wrong. Smoothies are often made with ice cream or milk and can be crammed with sugar. At least this treat gives you a heads up: It’s listed on the menu as a smoothie for people looking to gain weight.

But the calories are excessive—more than two Big Macs put together. And that’s just the small.

One 20-ounce smoothie: 1,044 calories, 35g fat, 120g sugar.

Choose this instead: Low-Carb Strawberry smoothie: 268 calories, 9g fat, 3g sugar.









Starbucks' Double Chocolaty Chip Frappuccino Blended Creme with whipped cream

Sure it sounds bad, but how bad is it? This afternoon pick-me-up delivers nearly one-third of the maximum fat you should consume in a day, and over half a day’s saturated fat.

One 16-ounce Grande: 510 calories; 19g fat, 11g saturated; 59g sugar; 300mg sodium.

Choose this instead: Your best bet is a regular cup of coffee without all the bells and whistles. If you just can’t live without a Frappuccino, make it a Coffee Frappuccino Light Blended Coffee: 130 calories, 0.5g fat, 16g sugar.







Coldstone's PB&C Shake

Chances are you already suspect that milkshakes aren't all that healthy. But this particular shake, made with chocolate ice cream, milk, and peanut butter, is in a class of its own. This frosty monster delivers an entire day’s worth of calories and almost three and a half times the daily limit for saturated fat.

One "Gotta Have It" (Coldstone speak for "large"): 2,010 calories; 131g fat, 68g saturated; 153g sugar.

Choose this instead: A better bet is the 16-ounce Sinless Oh Fudge! Shake, with the same chocolaty taste, but a quarter of the calories and only 2 grams of fat.







Auntie Anne's Jumbo Pretzel Dog

Auntie Anne’s sells snacks, not meals. But this concoction—a Nathan’s hot dog wrapped in a pretzel bun—contains almost half your daily upper limit of fat and sodium.

One Jumbo Pretzel Dog with butter: 610 calories; 29g fat, 13g saturated; 1,150mg sodium.

Choose this instead:  Go for the original pretzel without the butter and salt and you’ll whittle your treat down to 310 calories and only 1 gram of fat. Now that’s more like a snack!








Cinnabon's Caramel Pecanbon

The luring scent of Cinnabon is a mall staple. But just one of these decadent pastries means trouble. They deliver about half the calories and just about all the fat you should consume in a day.

One bun: 1,092 calories, 56g fat, 47g sugar.

Choose this instead: Cinnabon has no options that are particularly healthy, but you can try a Minibon, designed for smaller—and smarter—appetites: 300 calories, 11g fat.











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Wendy's Sweet and Spicy Boneless Wings

In June, Wendy’s launched this item, claiming it was “as far as it gets from fast food."

Calorie-wise, this meal isn’t that bad if it makes up your entire lunch. But it has more salt than you should have in a day, let alone at one sitting.

One order: 550 calories, 18g fat, 27g sugar, 2,530mg sodium.

Choose this instead: Try the Ultimate Chicken Grill, a grilled chicken breast on a sesame-seed bun: 320 calories, 7g fat, 8g sugar. Still, with 950 milligrams of sodium, don’t make it a daily habit.








Dunkin' Donuts' Coffee Cake Muffin

Muffins are often mistaken for the doughnut's healthy cousin. But muffins can be surprisingly high in fat.

This one is particularly offensive; you’d need to eat about three glazed donuts to match its nutrients and calories.

One muffin: 620 calories; 25g fat, 7g saturated; 54g sugar; 93g carbs.

Choose this instead: For an alternative—but equally decadent—breakfast treat, one glazed donut is a better bet: 220 calories, 9g fat, 12g sugar, 31g carbs.










What you need to know about About Heart Failure

The term "heart failure" makes it sound like the heart is no longer working at all and there's nothing that can be done. Actually, heart failure means that the heart isn't pumping as well as it should be.
Your body depends on the heart's pumping action to deliver oxygen- and nutrient-rich blood to the body's cells. When the cells are nourished properly, the body can function normally.
With heart failure, the weakened heart can't supply the cells with enough blood. This results in fatigue and shortness of breath and some people have coughing. Everyday activities such as walking, climbing stairs or carrying groceries can become very difficult.

Heart failure is a serious condition, and usually there's no cure. But many people with heart failure lead a full, enjoyable life when the condition is managed with heart failure medications and healthy lifestyle changes. It's also helpful to have the support of family and friends who understand your condition.

How the normal heart works
The normal healthy heart is a strong, muscular pump a little larger than a fist. It pumps blood continuously through the circulatory system. Watch an animation of blood flow through the heart.
The heart has four chambers, two on the right and two on the left:
  • Two upper chambers called atria (one is an atrium)
  • Two lower chambers called ventricles
The right atria takes in oxygen-depleted blood from the rest of the body and sends it back out to the lungs through the right ventricle where the blood becomes oxygenated.

Oxygen-rich blood travels from the lungs to the left atrium, then on to the left ventricle, which pumps it to the rest of the body.
The heart pumps blood to the lungs and to all the body's tissues by a sequence of highly organized contractions of the four chambers. For the heart to function properly, the four chambers must beat in an organized way.

What is heart failure?
Heart failure is a chronic, progressive condition in which the heart muscle is unable to pump enough blood through to meet the body's needs for blood and oxygen. Basically, the heart can't keep up with its workload.
Watch an animation of heart failure
At first the heart tries to make up for this by:heart failure
  • Enlarging. When your heart chamber enlarges, it stretches more and can contract more strongly, so it pumps more blood. With an enlarged heart, your body starts to retain fluid, your lungs get congested with fluid and your heart begins to beat irregularly.
  • Developing more muscle mass. The increase in muscle mass occurs because the contracting cells of the heart get bigger. This lets the heart pump more strongly, at least initially.
  • Pumping faster. This helps to increase the heart's output.
The body also tries to compensate in other ways:
  • The blood vessels narrow to keep blood pressure up, trying to make up for the heart's loss of power.
  • The body diverts blood away from less important tissues and organs (like the kidneys), the heart and brain.
These temporary measures mask the problem of heart failure, but they don't solve it. Heart failure continues and worsens until these substitute processes no longer work.
Eventually the heart and body just can't keep up, and the person experiences the fatigue, breathing problems or other symptoms that usually prompt a trip to the doctor.
The body's compensation mechanisms help explain why some people may not become aware of their condition until years after their heart begins its decline. (It's also a good reason to have a regular checkup with your doctor.)
Heart failure can involve the heart's left side, right side or both sides. However, it usually affects the left side first.

Speaking Rules you need to know!


1. Don't study grammar too much

This rule might sound strange to many ESL students, but it is one of the most important rules. If you want to pass examinations, then study grammar. However, if you want to become fluent in English, then you should try to learn English without studying the grammar.

Studying grammar will only slow you down and confuse you. You will think about the rules when creating sentences instead of naturally saying a sentence like a native. Remember that only a small fraction of English speakers know more than 20% of all the grammar rules. Many ESL students know more grammar than native speakers. I can confidently say this with experience. I am a native English speaker, majored in English Literature, and have been teaching English for more than 10 years. However, many of my students know more details about English grammar than I do. I can easily look up the definition and apply it, but I don't know it off the top of my head.

I often ask my native English friends some grammar questions, and only a few of them know the correct answer. However, they are fluent in English and can read, speak, listen, and communicate effectively.

Do you want to be able to recite the definition of a causative verb, or do you want to be able to speak English fluently?

2. Learn and study phrases

Many students learn vocabulary and try to put many words together to create a proper sentence. It amazes me how many words some of my students know, but they cannot create a proper sentence. The reason is because they didn't study phrases. When children learn a language, they learn both words and phrases together. Likewise, you need to study and learn phrases.

If you know 1000 words, you might not be able to say one correct sentence. But if you know 1 phrase, you can make hundreds of correct sentences. If you know 100 phrases, you will be surprised at how many correct sentences you will be able to say. Finally, when you know only a 1000 phrases, you will be almost a fluent English speaker.

The English Speaking Basics section is a great example of making numerous sentences with a single phrase. So don't spend hours and hours learning many different words. Use that time to study phrases instead and you will be closer to English fluency.

Don't translate

When you want to create an English sentence, do not translate the words from your Mother tongue. The order of words is probably completely different and you will be both slow and incorrect by doing this. Instead, learn phrases and sentences so you don't have to think about the words you are saying. It should be automatic.

Another problem with translating is that you will be trying to incorporate grammar rules that you have learned. Translating and thinking about the grammar to create English sentences is incorrect and should be avoided.

3. Reading and Listening is NOT enough. Practice Speaking what you hear!

Reading, listening, and speaking are the most important aspects of any language. The same is true for English. However, speaking is the only requirement to be fluent. It is normal for babies and children to learn speaking first, become fluent, then start reading, then writing. So the natural order is listening, speaking, reading, then writing.

First Problem
Isn't it strange that schools across the world teach reading first, then writing, then listening, and finally speaking? Although it is different, the main reason is because when you learn a second language, you need to read material to understand and learn it. So even though the natural order is listening, speaking, reading, then writing, the order for ESL students is reading, listening, speaking, then writing.

Second Problem
The reason many people can read and listen is because that's all they practice. But in order to speak English fluently, you need to practice speaking. Don't stop at the listening portion, and when you study, don't just listen. Speak out loud the material you are listening to and practice what you hear. Practice speaking out loud until your mouth and brain can do it without any effort. By doing so, you will be able to speak English fluently.

4. Submerge yourself

Being able to speak a language is not related to how smart you are. Anyone can learn how to speak any language. This is a proven fact by everyone in the world. Everyone can speak at least one language. Whether you are intelligent, or lacking some brain power, you are able to speak one language.

This was achieved by being around that language at all times. In your country, you hear and speak your language constantly. You will notice that many people who are good English speakers are the ones who studied in an English speaking school. They can speak English not because they went to an English speaking school, but because they had an environment where they can be around English speaking people constantly.

There are also some people who study abroad and learn very little. That is because they went to an English speaking school, but found friends from their own country and didn't practice English.

You don't have to go anywhere to become a fluent English speaker. You only need to surround yourself with English. You can do this by making rules with your existing friends that you will only speak English. You can also carry around an iPod and constantly listen to English sentences. As you can see, you can achieve results by changing what your surroundings are. Submerge yourself in English and you will learn several times faster.

TalkEnglish Offline Version is now ready for download.  In this package, you can utilize over 8000 audio files to completely surround yourself in English.  There are over 13.5 hours of audio files that are not available in the web form.  All conversations and all sentences are included, so even if you don't have many English speaking friends, you can constantly surround yourself in English using your MP3 player.  This package is available at the English Download page.  Take advantage of this opportunity and start learning English faster.

5. Study correct material

A common phrase that is incorrect is, "Practice makes perfect." This is far from the truth. Practice only makes what you are practicing permanent. If you practice the incorrect sentence, you will have perfected saying the sentence incorrectly. Therefore, it is important that you study material that is commonly used by most people.

Another problem I see is that many students study the news. However, the language they speak is more formal and the content they use is more political and not used in regular life. It is important to understand what they are saying, but this is more of an advanced lesson that should be studied after learning the fundamental basics of English.

Studying English with a friend who is not a native English speaker is both good and bad. You should be aware of the pros and cons of speaking with a non native speaking friend. Practicing with a non native person will give you practice. You can also motivate each other and point out basic mistakes. But you might pick up bad habits from one another if you are not sure about what are correct and incorrect sentences. So use these practice times as a time period to practice the correct material you studied. Not to learn how to say a sentence.

In short, study English material that you can trust, that is commonly used, and that is correct.

Summary

These are the rules that will help you achieve your goal of speaking English fluently. All the teachings and lessons on TalkEnglish.com follow this method so you have the tools you need to achieve your goal right here on TalkEnglish.com.

10 Bad Foods That Get a Healthy Rap

They sound healthy, they look healthy, and food companies work hard to make you believe they are healthy. But many foods that get a good-for-you rap are anything but nutritious. They're packed with calories, fat, added sugars, and all kinds of artificial ingredients that your body doesn't need. Here are some of the worst offenders at the market.


Protein Bars

"Just because a bar has protein in it does not mean it's nutritious," says Melanie Warner, author of Pandora's Lunchbox: How Processed Food Took Over the American Meal. In fact, many protein bars aren't much better for you than a Snickers. They're chock-full of sugar and saturated fat with a little protein added in, usually in the form of a highly processed powder derived from soy or milk. "These powders offer no nutritional benefits beyond the protein, which most of us get enough of from our diets anyway," says Warner. To find a bar that's actually healthy, "look for ones that have whole ingredients that haven't been broken down, whether that's oats, nuts, or dried fruit," Warner suggests. "These ingredients provide a well-rounded complex of nutrition beyond just the protein."
Or skip the protein bar altogether. "A peanut-butter sandwich on whole-grain bread is a great substitute for a bar," says Joan Salge Blake, RD, a health sciences professor at Boston University and spokeswoman for the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. "It travels well and costs less than 25 cents."


Veggie Burgers 



"Some veggie burgers are very, very heathy, but many are not," Salge Blake says. "Oftentimes they're held together by lots of cheese, making them much higher in saturated fat than you'd think." They also can be laden with unhealthy oils, made mostly of soy, and have few if any other real vegetables – especially the patties served at restaurants. When dining out, ask your server what's in the veggie burger and how it is prepared before ordering one. At the grocery store, read the ingredients panel on frozen patty packages. Salge Blake says to look for vegetables, beans, or whole grains high up on the list and make sure the burger is low in saturated fat.


Frozen Diet Entrées 


Low-calorie nuke-and-eat meals might sound healthy, but they're not so great, especially for guys. They usually have around 300 calories, which isn't enough to cut it for dinner, assuming you shoot for the 2,500 calories a day recommended for men. Chances are you'll polish one off and still feel hungry. Next thing you know, you'll be searching for a snack. Additionally, Salge Blake says these entrées don't offer enough vegetables to make a square meal and they're usually sky-high in sodium. Some have as many as 700 mg, which is almost half of the 1,500 mg recommended for the whole day.

Gluten-Free Everything 


Although some people need to avoid gluten for medical reasons, many others cut out foods containing this protein because they think "gluten-free" means healthy. It doesn't. "Usually when people go gluten-free just to manage their weight, it backfires," Salge Blake says. "Many gluten-free foods, especially sweet stuff like cookies, have the same number of calories as their gluten-containing equivalents, if not more. These foods are also more expensive, so if you don't really need to avoid gluten, it doesn't make sense to buy them."


Veggie Chips 


Don't be fooled by the sea of spinach chips, carrot chips, and pepper chips lining the snack aisle these days. Oftentimes these are no healthier for you than Ruffles. Most still use potato as their base, and then sprinkle in a little spinach, tomato, or pea powder for color – and not a lot of added nutrition. "The product might be called 'spinach chips,' but if you look at the ingredients list, you'll often see that there's not much spinach in there at all," says Salge Blake. "It's usually listed at the very end, and it's often just a powder." Also, regardless of whether chips are made from potatoes or another vegetable, if they're fried in saturated-fat-filled oils, steer clear.

Multigrain Bread, Pasta, and Cereal


Whole grains are healthier than refined grains because they have more fiber, vitamins, and minerals. But multigrain? The term doesn't tell you squat about nutrition. "It just means there is more than one type of grain used in a product," says Warner. For all you know, multigrain might mean refined wheat flour with a dash of refined corn flour. And two kinds of refined flours isn't necessarily better for you than one. You have to check the ingredients list. If it says "whole wheat" or "whole corn" near the top, then you're actually getting the extra health benefits.


Anything with added antioxidants or vitamins 


Since doctors tell us to load up on antioxidant-rich fruits and veggies, manufacturers love slapping phrases like "with antioxidants" or "with added vitamins and minerals" onto processed food labels. You'll see this a lot on breakfast cereals, bars, and refined-grain breads, which are otherwise mostly empty calories. "These claims give foods a health halo, like all you need to do is sprinkle in some vitamins and they become healthy," Warner says. Oftentimes these foods are far from nutritious – remember 7-Up with Antioxidants? – and the added vitamins aren't coming from real fruits and veggies, which are by far the best sources. "Manufacturers don't usually add in actual blueberry compounds, for instance," says Warner. "They'll use synthetic vitamins made through chemical processing."


Fat-Free Salad Dressing


Non-fat dressings often pack in scads of salt to compensate for flavor, and they often include dozens of artificial ingredients. Besides, you should have a little fat with your salad. Your body needs it to be able to absorb the nutrients in all those fresh veggies. "Tossed salads are full of fat-soluble vitamins, so I recommend low-fat or light dressings instead of non-fat," Salge Blake says. "Plus, a little fat helps you feel fuller."



Low-Fat Ice Cream


No ice cream is nutritious, of course, but low-fat versions get viewed as better-for-you. They're not. "A lot of them aren't far off from regular ice cream in terms of calories per cup," Salge Blake says. "They take out some fat, but they add in sugar." That's bad, because more and more research shows that excess sugar – not fat – is the main culprit in weight gain. "The other issue with low-fat ice cream is people think they can eat more of it because it's 'healthier,'" Salge Blake says. "Same with frozen yogurt, since it's also lower in fat." To keep your portions in check, she recommends putting a pile of fresh strawberries or blueberries in your bowl first. Then use a half-cup of ice cream or frozen yogurt as a topping.

Yogurt


Greek yogurt may be low in sugar and packed with protein, but your everyday Dannon or Yoplait? Not so much. "The sugar content of regular yogurt can be as much as a can of soda," Warner says. Plus, it's normally packed with artificial flavors, colors, and preservatives. And compared to Greek, regular yogurt is higher in sodium and lower in protein.

7 Ways Not to Get Mosquito Bites


Things in life that aren’t fair: the American prison system, Jennifer Aniston’s love life and the fact that in a backyard full of people, you seem to be the only one who gets covered in welty, gross mosquito bites. Here, seven creative ways to keep those suckers at bay--without resorting to the DEET.


Let Your Garden Grow

Lemongrass, citronella and lavender are great natural mosquito controls. Plant them directly in the ground or in pretty planters in places where guests gather.



Lay a Trap

And no we don’t mean the electric bug zapper. A patio egg is a ceramic diffuser that soaks up lemongrass oil and repels insects for up to four months. Bonus: It smells lovely.



Take a Bath

Instead of spraying yourself with the icky stuff, try taking a bath with a few drops of citronella oil or Avon Skin So Soft. Then, when you head outdoors in the a.m., you'll automatically turn off insects.

Light a fire

Yes, those summertime fire pits are great for ambiance, but they can also keep pests away--just add a bit of smoking sage to the pit and…see ya, mosquitoes.

Hang Water Bags

Hear us out: Filling sandwich bags halfway with water and placing a few copper pennies at the bottom honestly works. Hang the bags close to your doorway to keep bugs from entering your home--the water refracts light and confuses those stupid guys into flying in the wrong direction.




Raid Your Laundry Room

Dryer sheets are made up of chemicals that gnats and mosquitoes don’t like, so placing one (or two) in your pocket naturally makes them stay away.



Eat More Garlic

It’s a doozy, but eating or swallowing garlic pills gives you a repelling scent that not even Mr. Skeeter appreciates. (Just make sure your loved ones aren’t also repelled.)
















5 ways to fall in love with yourself








Unless you’re trying to raise a bully, you’ve probably told your children that you can’t lift yourself up by putting someone else down.  So why do we, as women, have such a hard time taking that lesson to heart? We may be quick to praise or compliment others, but we don’t do the same thing for ourselves.

I saw this myself at dinner with my girlfriends not long ago.  These beautiful women had no trouble finding fault with themselves. One hates her “crazy” skin.  Another complained about her flapping upper arms and said her skin draped so much it looked like a curtain swag. She even threw away a blouse that showed too much arm in a photo.

As a health advocate, I see just how destructive self-criticism can be.  To be healthy – physically and mentally – our internal dialogue and external persona need to match. When we undercut ourselves with constant criticism, we are bound to suffer in mind, body and spirit.

So what can we do to develop a more positive self image? For me, it took a lesson from my daughter who once said, “My mom doesn’t think she’s beautiful.”  I finally admitted she was right, and that realization forced me to change my attitude.  Here are some of the steps that helped me fall in love with myself.

1. Find your inner beauty
Easier said than done?  Definitely. But if the old adage “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is true, what message are we sending ourselves when we fill our own heads with criticism?  Instead of picking at everything you think is wrong with you, work to actively locate the beauty inside yourself and celebrate it.


2. Write it on the mirror
To help with my internal transformation, my daughter took my lipstick and wrote “I am beautiful” on my bathroom mirror where I had to see it every morning.  We cleaned around the words for a year until I finally got it through my head.  So take your brightest lipstick and write the words you need to see on your mirror or on a note on the refrigerator door or a sticky note in the middle of your steering wheel. Wherever you put your message, be sure you read it every day – and leave it there until you believe it.


3. Give yourself a break
We all do or say things we wish we could take back.  Then we fall into the inner dialogue of thinking, “Why did I say that?” or, “Why didn’t I do better?” These thoughts are so automatic we don’t even realize how much we put ourselves down. Instead of letting mistakes loop in your head, give yourself permission to let them go and move on.


4. Pay attention
As women, we often find it easier to give compliments than to receive them.  Don’t brush aside affirming words. Whether it’s a kind act or a thoughtful word, give yourself a moment to really think about what others appreciate or admire in you. Those things are real, and they deserve your personal attention. For me, compliments from other women are more meaningful than those from men.  So don’t be stingy in paying compliments to others.  I believe whatever you give out will come back to you ten-fold in personal satisfaction.


5. Smile

Even if you still don’t see your inner beauty, lock eyes with someone and give her a big smile.  You’ll see her light up as your inner beauty shines through.  Better yet, that light will reflect back onto you, and you’ll both feel better about yourselves.
As women, loving ourselves is not the norm – but it should be.  Each of us needs to be happy in our own skin – no matter how wrinkled it may be.  Our power and our beauty lie in our generous and loving hearts that bring light, joy and strength to others.  So I encourage you to celebrate your own beauty and the beauty of the women around you.  Only you have the power to change how other people perceive you.  If you want to be respected, you first need to respect yourself.  So take time to recognize the good in yourself and give thanks to yourself.  You deserve it.

How GREAT Leaders Think

We are drawn to the stories of effective leaders in action. Their decisiveness invigorates us. The events that unfold from their bold moves, often culminating in successful outcomes, make for gripping narratives. Perhaps most important, we turn to accounts of their deeds for lessons that we can apply in our own careers. Books like Jack: Straight from the Gut and Execution: The Discipline of Getting Things Done are compelling in part because they implicitly promise that we can achieve the success of a Jack Welch or a Larry Bossidy—if only we learn to emulate his actions.


But this focus on what a leader does is misplaced. That’s because moves that work in one context often make little sense in another, even at the same company or within the experience of a single leader. Recall that Jack Welch, early in his career at General Electric, insisted that each of GE’s businesses be number one or number two in market share in its industry; years later he insisted that those same businesses define their markets so that their share was no greater than 10%, thereby forcing managers to look for opportunities beyond the confines of a narrowly conceived market. Trying to learn from what Jack Welch did invites confusion and incoherence, because he pursued—wisely, I might add—diametrically opposed courses at different points in his career and in GE’s history.


So where do we look for lessons? A more productive, though more difficult, approach is to focus on how a leader thinks—that is, to examine the antecedent of doing, or the ways in which leaders’ cognitive processes produce their actions.



I have spent the past 15 years, first as a management consultant and now as the dean of a business school, studying leaders with exemplary records. Over the past six years, I have interviewed more than 50 such leaders, some for as long as eight hours, and found that most of them share a somewhat unusual trait: They have the predisposition and the capacity to hold in their heads two opposing ideas at once. And then, without panicking or simply settling for one alternative or the other, they’re able to creatively resolve the tension between those two ideas by generating a new one that contains elements of the others but is superior to both. This process of consideration and synthesis can be termed integrative thinking. It is this discipline—not superior strategy or faultless execution—that is a defining characteristic of most exceptional businesses and the people who run them.



I don’t claim that this is a new idea. More than 60 years ago, F. Scott Fitzgerald saw “the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function” as the sign of a truly intelligent individual. And certainly not every good leader exhibits this capability, nor is it the sole source of success for those who do. But it is clear to me that integrative thinking tremendously improves people’s odds.

This insight is easy to miss, though, since the management conversation in recent years has tilted away from thinking and toward doing (witness the popularity of books like Execution). Also, many great integrative thinkers aren’t even aware of their particular capability and thus don’t consciously exercise it. Take Jack Welch, who is among the executives I have interviewed: He is clearly a consummate integrative thinker—but you’d never know it from reading his books.


Indeed, my aim in this article is to deconstruct and describe a capability that seems to come naturally to many successful leaders. To illustrate the concept, I’ll concentrate on an executive I talked with at length: Bob Young, the colorful cofounder and former CEO of Red Hat, the dominant distributor of Linux open-source software. The assumption underlying my examination of his and others’ integrative thinking is this: It isn’t just an ability you’re born with—it’s something you can hone.
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Opposable Thumb, Opposable Mind

In the mid-1990s, Red Hat faced what seemed like two alternative paths to growth. At the time, the company sold packaged versions of Linux open-source software, mainly to computer geeks, periodically bundling together new versions that included the latest upgrades from countless independent developers. As Red Hat looked to grow beyond its $1 million in annual sales, it could have chosen one of the two basic business models in the software industry.
One was the classic proprietary-software model, employed by big players such as Microsoft, Oracle, and SAP, which sold customers operating software but not the source code. These companies invested heavily in research and development, guarded their intellectual property jealously, charged high prices, and enjoyed wide profit margins because their customers, lacking access to the source code, were essentially locked into purchasing regular upgrades.
The alternative, employed by numerous small companies, including Red Hat itself, was the so-called free-software model, in which suppliers sold CD-ROMs with both the software and the source code. The software products weren’t in fact free, but prices were modest—$15 for a packaged version of the Linux operating system versus more than $200 for Microsoft Windows. Suppliers made money each time they assembled a new version from the many free updates by independent developers; but profit margins were narrow and revenue was uncertain. Corporate customers, looking for standardization and predictability, were wary not only of the unfamiliar software but also of its small and idiosyncratic suppliers.
Bob Young—a self-deprecating eccentric in an industry full of eccentrics, who signaled his affiliation with his company by regularly sporting red socks and a red hat—didn’t like either of these models. The high-margin proprietary model ran counter to the whole philosophy of Linux and the open-source movement, even if there had been a way to create proprietary versions of the software. “Buying proprietary software is like buying a car with the hood welded shut,” Young told me. “If something goes wrong, you can’t even try to fix it.” But the free-software model meant scraping a slim profit from the packaging and distribution of a freely available commodity in a fringe market, which might have offered reasonable returns in the short term but wasn’t likely to deliver sustained profitable growth.
Young likes to say that he’s not “one of the smart guys” in the industry, that he’s a salesman in a world of technical geniuses. Nonetheless, he managed to synthesize two seemingly irreconcilable business models, placing Red Hat on a path to tremendous success. His response to his strategic dilemma was to combine the free-software model’s low product price with the proprietary model’s profitable service component, in the process creating something new: a corporate market for the Linux operating system. As is often the case with integrative thinking, Young included some twists on both models that made the synthesis work.



Although inspired by the proprietary model, Red Hat’s service offering was quite different. “If you ran into a bug that caused your systems to crash,” Young said of the service you’d buy from the big proprietary shops, “you would call up the manufacturer and say, ‘My systems are crashing.’ And he’d say, ‘Oh, dear,’ while he really meant, ‘Oh, good.’ He’d send an engineer over at several hundred dollars an hour to fix his software, which was broken when he delivered it to you, and he’d call that customer service.” Red Hat, by contrast, helped companies manage the upgrades and improvements available almost daily through Linux’s open-source platform.


Young also made a crucial change to what had been the somewhat misleadingly dubbed free-software model: He actually gave the software away, repackaging it as a free download on the Internet rather than as an inexpensive but cumbersome CD-ROM. This allowed Red Hat to break away from the multitude of small Linux packagers by acquiring the scale and market leadership to generate faith among cautious corporate customers in what would become Red Hat’s central offering—service, not software.




In 1999, Red Hat went public, and Young became a billionaire on the first day of trading. By 2000, Linux had captured 25% of the server operating system market, and Red Hat held more than 50% of the global market for Linux systems. Unlike the vast majority of dot-com era start-ups, Red Hat has continued to grow.
What enabled Young to resolve the apparent choice between two unattractive models? It was his use of an innate but underdeveloped human characteristic, something we might call—in a metaphor that echoes another human trait—the opposable mind.
Human beings are distinguished from nearly every other creature by a physical feature: the opposable thumb. Thanks to the tension that we can create by opposing the thumb and fingers, we can do marvelous things—write, thread a needle, guide a catheter through an artery. Although evolution provided human beings with this potential advantage, it would have gone to waste if our species had not exercised it in ever more sophisticated ways. When we engage in something like writing, we train the muscles involved and the brain that controls them. Without exploring the possibilities of opposition, we wouldn’t have developed either its physical properties or the cognition that accompanies and animates it.
Analogously, we were born with opposable minds, which allow us to hold two conflicting ideas in constructive, almost dialectic tension. We can use that tension to think our way toward new, superior ideas. Were we able to hold only one thought or idea in our heads at a time, we wouldn’t have access to the insights that the opposable mind can produce.
Unfortunately, because people don’t exercise this capability much, great integrative thinkers are fairly rare. Why is this potentially powerful but generally latent tool used so infrequently and to less than full advantage? Because putting it to work makes us anxious. Most of us avoid complexity and ambiguity and seek out the comfort of simplicity and clarity. To cope with the dizzying complexity of the world around us, we simplify where we can. We crave the certainty of choosing between well-defined alternatives and the closure that comes when a decision has been made.
For those reasons, we often don’t know what to do with fundamentally opposing and seemingly incommensurable models. Our first impulse is usually to determine which of the two models is “right” and, by the process of elimination, which is “wrong.” We may even take sides and try to prove that our chosen model is better than the other one. But in rejecting one model out of hand, we miss out on all the value that we could have realized by considering the opposing two at the same time and finding in the tension clues to a superior model. By forcing a choice between the two, we disengage the opposable mind before it can seek a creative resolution.
We often don’t know what to do with fundamentally opposing models. Our first impulse is usually to determine which is “right” and, by the process of elimination, which is “wrong.”
This nearly universal personal trait is writ large in most organizations. When a colleague admonishes us to “quit complicating the issue,” it’s not just an impatient reminder to get on with the damn job—it’s also a plea to keep the complexity at a comfortable level.
To take advantage of our opposable minds, we must resist our natural leaning toward simplicity and certainty. Bob Young recognized from the beginning that he wasn’t bound to choose one of the two prevailing software business models. He saw the unpleasant trade-offs he’d have to make if he chose between the two as a signal to rethink the problem from the ground up. And he didn’t rest until he found a new model that grew out of the tension between them.
Basically, Young refused to settle for an “either-or” choice. That phrase has come up time and again in my interviews with successful leaders. When asked whether he thought strategy or execution was more important, Jack Welch responded: “I don’t think it’s an ‘either-or.’” Similarly, Procter & Gamble CEO A.G. Lafley—when asked how he came up with a turnaround plan that drew on both cost cutting and investment in innovation—said: “We weren’t going to win if it were an ‘or.’ Everybody can do ‘or.’”

The Four Stages of Decision Making

So what does the process of integrative thinking look like? How do integrative thinkers consider their options in a way that leads to new possibilities and not merely back to the same inadequate alternatives? They work through four related but distinct stages. The steps themselves aren’t particular to integrative thinking: Everyone goes through them while thinking through a decision. What’s distinctive about integrative thinkers is how they approach the steps. (See the exhibit “Conventional Versus Integrative Thinking.”)


Best way you can use Google Analytics to monitor your organic traffic


Monitoring organic traffic is a key part of any SEO professional’s job. And with Google Analytics, doing this is easy, and free. Here’s a quick guide to help you explore some key metrics.


Google Analytics is one of the web’s most popular analytics tools. It’s a free service, so you should set up an account now if you haven’t already done so.

1) Organic search traffic

Google Analytics (GA) lets you see where on the web people found your site, or the source of your traffic. For example an organic search engine query, or a link from another page. It also shows you the medium, organic, paid or referral traffic.
To check your traffic, click ‘Acquisition', 'All Traffic', 'Sources/Medium' on the left hand side of the navigation bar, as shown in this image.
analytics organic traffic sources
Looking at the where on the web people found your site can be informative. You can get an overview of which avenues for traffic are performing well over time. If you're getting lots of organic traffic you are drawing people into your site for free, most likely from creating lots of good quality, unique content that is well optimized and in demand.
Similarly, if you’ve been link building to certain pages, using keyword rich anchor text, you should see (over time) traffic from these referring sites increase.
You can then compare this with any changes in your keyword rankings to see if there’s a correlation. You can also assess the value of your paid marketing channels if you're investing in these as well.

2) Search engine optimization section

We also need to look at the Search Engine Optimization section to see the search queries visitors used to find your site.
Go to 'Acquisition', 'Search Engine Optimization' as shown in the image below, you can see that you have three options here: Queries, Landing Pages, and Geographical Summary.

analytics organic traffic sources

I'm going to ignore Geographical Summary because it just tells you where your customers have come from, which won't be interesting (or actionable) for most of you. But let's focus on the other two areas.
Queries
If you want to look at subsections of that search queries used to find your site, type in some of your target keywords in the search bar. Google will then show data for the keywords that contain that term. Here is the  report for Wordtracker.com. I’ve put in Scout, so all terms that contain that phrase are returned.
This section of GA lets you see how people are reacting to your site in the search results. Let's look at Wordtracker's:
Wordtracker Scout and Google Analytics


The keywords you’re looking at are the top 2,000 traffic drivers to your site. They're only estimations (notice how they're all conveniently round numbers).
Looking at the traffic for certain keywords can be very informative. You can see how many people are searching for you by name (and how this changes over time). And you can see what stage of the buying cycle your customers are at. Are they looking for more general products, like laptops, or something very specific, like Samsung Series 3 laptops? These insights can help you ensure the content on your site matches your customers’ needs.


You can then compare this with any changes in your keyword rankings to see if there’s a correlation. There might not be. Often you can optimize a page for a given term like shoes, but you might not see any improvement in ranking for that term, at least not for a while. But if you’re looking at your traffic too, you might see an increase in traffic for long tail terms (like discount women’s shoes) that you’re not tracking the ranking for. Tracking both keyword traffic and keyword rankings will give you a fuller picture of how your SEO is doing.
With Queries, you can also see you how many people saw your site in the search results, then clicked through. We call this the clickthrough rate, or CTR.
People are more likely to click on your search result if it ranks well (so it appears at the top of the page where users can see it), they recognize your brand or the page description is written persuasively. Improving your brand strength and search engine ranking takes time, but you can change your page descriptions quickly. If you’ve got a low clickthrough rate, see if you can improve the description with persuasive copy and strong calls to action, like ‘click here’ or ‘check us out today’. You could see uplift in traffic very quickly. The BBC did this. Just by changing the page description, the clickthrough rate went from 67% to 81%!
You can also improve your CTR by using rich snippets. These allow Google to show more helpful information in the search results, like reviews or important dates. Snippets make search results more relevant to what the searcher is looking for, so they are more likely to click through.
As a rough idea of what sort of CTR you can expect, Wordtracker’s top ranking keywords typically get around a 20% clickthrough rate, rising to about 80% for branded searches like wordtracker. If your site isn’t very well known, or you don’t rank very well, your CTR will be much lower. But watch this improve as your brand grows.
Surprise ranking
Looking at your Queries, you might spot some terms that you’re not actually targeting. These can improve your business in unexpected ways.
Wordtracker ranks for LinkedIn logo for example. It's a great traffic driver, even if it's not one of our target terms. But we can still create relevant content for it. Users may arrive at the site looking for the LinkedIn logo, but if we can entice them to download an e-book in exchange for their email address, we've capitalized on that traffic. But we do this only because it’s a quick win. Don’t spend your time chasing irrelevant traffic because it’s unlikely to convert. But if you do get some traffic you weren’t expecting, think if there is an easy and quick way you can capitalize on it.

Landing pages
The pages people arrive at on your site are called landing pages. And the better your landing pages rank, the more traffic they’ll get. So with Google Analytics, we can monitor landing page traffic and see how our SEO is working.


You can see from Wordtracker’s analytics that we get lots of traffic to the LinkedIn page.
Linked traffic
This is happening because we have great content that talks about LinkedIn and lots of links to that page.
If you want more traffic to a given landing page, make sure the content is well-written and focused. So if you want a page to rank for Samsung laptops, only talk about Samsung laptops on that page. Also try to get more keyword rich links to those pages. So in this example, try to get links that use Samsung laptops in the anchor text.


Get started!

To look at these numbers in Google Analytics right now, check out this Google dashboard I made. Click the link, and select the GA profile you want to use. You’ll then see the metrics we’ve talked about, using your site’s data. They’ll be presented in a dashboard, so you’ll see a collection of tables and charts. To drill down on a given data set, and click the header and go through to a full report.


google analytics dashboard
In the dashboard I’ve also included some referrer data. This let’s you see the other sites that are driving traffic to yours and the impact of various factors. For example, if you’re running a social media campaign, you’d expect to see more referral traffic from the social networks you used, like Facebook or Twitter. Similarly, if you got a link from a very popular site, you’d expect that link to drive lots of traffic. The referral section is how you monitor this.
Wonding what to do about that nasty (not provided) data? Here are some tips from Chris Liversidge on how to combine Webmaster tools data with Google Analytics data to fill in the gaps.
This dashboard is just designed to get you started. As always with Google Analytics, explore the data for your own site and see what insights you can extract. Don’t be afraid to play around. Google Analytics offers a treasure trove of information, so go explore!